Mongolian Girls: What Foreign Men Should Know About Dating in Mongolia

Mongolian girls generally don’t get a lot of attention, although I think they should. That’s probably because Mongolia is small, landlocked, and rarely visited by foreigners. But the truth is that people don’t know what they’re missing by not coming here!

And while travelers talk endlessly about Thai, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, or Filipino women, Mongolian girls unfortunately stay under the radar. This guide fixes that. If you’re curious about what Mongolian women are like, how dating works, and what you should expect as a foreign man here, you’re in the right place.

During my short, but eventful stint in Mongolia, I was more than pleased with the quality of women and I am sure you will be, too!

What Are Mongolian Girls Like?

Mongolian women impressed me from the moment I arrived. If you’re used to traveling Southeast Asia, the first thing you’ll notice is the difference in body structure.

Mongolian girls aren’t the tiny, bird-like type you meet in Thailand or the Philippines. They tend to have broader bone structure, fuller hips, and even in the face, you see stronger lines. Many have that unusual, striking blend of Asian and subtle Slavic features – something you don’t see anywhere else. And I found it addictive.

Another thing that stood out was that many Mongolian women have naturally bigger breasts and behinds than you might expect from an Asian country. It’s just how their genetics run, and if that’s your thing, Mongolia won’t disappoint.

If you want to meet Mongolian girls before even landing in Ulaanbaatar, I had the best results on this website. Most of the girls I matched with through the app spoke good English and were interested in meeting foreigners.

Speaking of looks, girls in Ulaanbaatar (and I am sure this stands for the entire country) have a style that mixes casual streetwear with touches of Korean fashion.

Heeled boots, fitted jeans, soft makeup, long straight hair – not just the traditional clothing that is, I have to admit, amazing to see. They’re well-groomed, clean, and tend to dress with purpose. Even the more modest girls take pride in presentation.

Personality-wise – you need to understand a little more about the culture of Mongolia. As descendants of Genghis Khan, these girls have some spunk to them.

Some might be shy at first, but plenty are bold, funny, playful, and even a bit aggressive in a charming way. And yes, many Mongolian girls can drink like champions, as alcohol is part of social life.

Ulaanbaatar: The Only City to Spit Game in Mongolia

If you’re going to check out Mongolia with women in mind, then there’s only one city to set your sights on: Ulaanbaatar.

Mongolia is a tiny country. There are only three million people in all of Mongolia. Nearly half of them, almost 1.5 million people live in the capital – Ulaanbaatar. There’s not even another city in the whole country that has a population over 100,000.

Ulaanbaatar is the only place that offers you a good chance to date a Mongolian girl that is really special.

However, you’ll need airtight logistics to pull this off. As we’ll see later, Mongolian men can be protective, and moving fast during dates is safer and smoother when you’re near the good spots.

As such, I stayed around Sukhabaatar Square. This put me right in the heart of the city, and there was nightlife, bars, and cafes within walking distance.

For your first trip to Ulaanbaatar, this is where you want to be. You’ll have the best chance to bounce girls back to your apartment or hotel here without any issues. Prices are reasonable in the area, too.

Pro-Tip: As I was in the city during the summertime, I met some Mongolian girls returning home from their lives aboard. They spoke great English and were fairly educated. If you’re coming to visit this city, make sure you do so during the summer months. You’ll have much better luck with the women.

How to Date Mongolian Girls

Dating in Mongolia isn’t the same as dating in Southeast Asia. It’s not as easy, not as open, and not as used to foreign men (which also gives you an advantage). This means that if you follow the right strategy, you’ll have plenty of success.

The dating pool is full of attractive, fun girls who are curious about foreigners but also cautious. Social dynamics matter here, which is why it helps to be intentional rather than spontaneous. Here’s the exact approach that worked for me.

1: Online Dating in Mongolia

I consider it essential here. Not because it’s the easiest way to meet women – though it is – but because it protects you from accidentally hitting on a girl whose boyfriend, cousin, or admirer is nearby. Saving yourself a confrontation is reason enough to use apps.

While Mongolian women dig foreigners, you’ll run some risk when you run game in public here. Even if the girl is not taken, a man that might have interest in her too can become violent.

As such, make sure your profiles are up-to-date before you head to Ulaanbaatar and go for this safer route, which is online dating.

If you only use one app in Mongolia, make it AsianDating. It gave me the highest reply rate, and all of my best dates came from there. Girls using this platform are serious, responsive, and already open to meeting foreigners. It removes the risk of approaching someone who’s taken, which is a real issue in Mongolia.

2: Day Game in Mongolia

I didn’t hit the day game too hard in Mongolia, but I did make some approaches and found some sweet spots. As with all aspects of dating in the country, you need to be cognizant of jealous men when day gaming.

I never approached a girl who was even around another guy – it didn’t matter if they didn’t seem to be together. Better safe than sorry and I strongly recommend you to follow this plan as well.

The best places I found to day game were along Peace Avenue in the city center. Sukhabaatar Square was a decent area, as well.

For mall game, you should try the State Department Store, although I was a bit intimidated here. Shangri-La Centre was my favorite mall in Ulaanbaatar, as it was upscale. I had a few approaches here with girls, and they went quite well.

However, absolutely no one day games here. So the girls may be a little thrown off by your approach and you have to put a lot of extra work (usually for no results). This is what online websites are the best approach.

If you want to try it, I found an indirect/direct mix worked best. I’d open with the dumb tourist card and then change the topic quickly with some direct compliment. For example:

Open: “Excuse me, do you speak English? Do you know where I can find…?”

Her: Blah blah blah

Me: Ahh ok, perfect. That’s exactly what I needed. You’re a pretty good tour guide. So let me ask you – where would a pretty girl like yourself go out on a Saturday night here?

Sure, it’s not that smooth, but it might work. Expect most ladies to be not too receptive to this, though.

3: Night Game in Mongolia

The nightlife isn’t great here. It’s certainly not like Indonesia. But there are good times to be had.

Mongolians are suspicious about anyone not in their social circle when out at night. As such, you need to remember one thing:

Find a local or three to roll with.

This is essential when going out at night. Not only will you have better luck with the ladies in Mongolia by rolling in a group, but you’ll also stay safer.

A foreigner rolling solo is a prime target to get his ass beaten from super protective Mongolian guys.

That all said – there are some fun clubs in Ulaanbaatar. Nightlife in Ulaanbaatar is mainly broken down into two types of music: House/Techno or hip-hop.

If you don’t like these styles, then this may not be the place for you. As I only went out a few nights to creep, this guide isn’t comprehensive.

Although I did visit nearly half a dozen places during my trip and found a couple of solid spots.

If you’re in the city and interested in Ulaanbaatar nightlife, I’d recommend:

• Great Khan Irish Bar: This should be your start to nearly every night out in Ulaanbaatar. The place is foreigner-friendly and giant. The chicks here are friendly as can be and the location is quite convenient. I was quite a fan, as this is my favorite bar in the city.

Other decent spots to check out include:

• New Mass Club
• Face Club
• Metropolis

Bonus: Ulaanbaatar Nightlife Tips

These Ulaanbaatar nightlife tips will be less towards getting you a date and more towards keeping you safe, and I am sure they go for any city in the country. So let’s go:

• Don’t go out alone. Always roll with friends.
• Do not approach girls in groups where guys are present.
• Never spam approach here. Always be a sniper. I’d be willing to bet you’ll get in a fight if you spam!
• Stay tipsy. You don’t want to be drunk in Mongolia.
• Don’t be confrontational. While you could probably take the guy in your face, his eight friends won’t allow you to win any fight.

The Dating Game

Once you’ve matched with a few girls online or met some through day or night game, it’s time to actually date them. Dating Mongolian women is straightforward once you understand how they think and what they take seriously.

They like confidence, kindness, and humor, and they’re open to trying new places and new experiences. But they also expect respect and a bit of awareness about how things work socially in their city.

Here’s what you do:

• Walk around your hotel or apartment when you arrive and scout out 2-3 bars and a coffee shop.
• Invite girls for a drink. Make sure she does drink (chances are she does, although some might be reserved at first – it’s only natural).
• Get 2-3 drinks in your Mongolian woman of choice, while keeping the PDA to a minimum. This is important here.
• Suggest having wine back at your place.
• Success! (If she agrees, of course!)

Pro-Tip: Make sure you rotate your bars and try not to let many people see you with more than one girl. Jealousy is rampant in this country. Going to a different bar with a different girl is a solid play.

What Mongolian Women Want in a Relationship

Of course, many foreigners are not there just for short trips and having fun (there are easier places if you only want that). Most of the girls I met here weren’t looking for just a fun night. Most were interested in long-term, meaningful relationships and their expectations were very consistent.

If that’s your case, you’re in luck! Mongolian women value reliability, as the culture and traditions here put family first, friendships second, and strangers somewhere much lower.

When you show that you can keep your word, text when you say you’ll text, show up on time, and pay attention, you move from “outsider” to “someone worth taking seriously.”

They also appreciate a masculine but calm presence. They don’t respond well to men who brag or try too hard. They respond to men who carry themselves with a steady, relaxed vibe – you must be confident, but not in an exaggerated way.

Respect is non-negotiable. Never raise your voice in public. Never grab her arm or try to act dominant. Mongolian women don’t respond well to macho displays. They respect men who are protective, but not controlling.

If things progress and you see her more than once, she’ll start introducing you slowly to her life. A friend might join your date. She may tell you about her family. This is her way of testing if you’re stable. Mongolian girls may be feisty and fun, but when choosing a boyfriend, they become more traditional.

Affection is a private matter. Public displays are limited (and you already have a disadvantage being a foreigner), and some girls avoid touching at all outdoors.

But in private, they’re warm, loyal, gentle, and attentive. They like cooking simple meals together, watching movies, chatting with wine, and staying close. If you show the same warmth back, things move smoothly. As always, meaningful relationships eventually outperform quick flings.

Language & Communication

English levels vary a lot throughout the country. Younger women in their 20s and early 30s, especially those who studied abroad, speak good English. Many of the girls I met in summer had come home from university programs abroad and conversations flowed naturally.

Other girls speak limited English, but if they’re truly interested, you can make things work. That’s when simple vocabulary and translation apps help.

Don’t speak fast. Don’t overload conversations. And don’t treat limited English as a lack of intelligence (they don’t do that to you because you don’t speak their language!). Mongolian girls are smart and well educated but sometimes English just isn’t their strong point.

Safety & Social Awareness

We’ve already touched on this, but understanding safety is a major part of dating in Mongolia. Mongolian men can get defensive fast if they think you’re disrespecting them or their social group. Even if a girl tells you she’s single, someone nearby might think they have a claim to her.

Don’t approach girls surrounded by men. Don’t approach mixed groups at clubs. Don’t approach aggressively after drinking – or somebody who seems to have been drinking. Don’t try to hit on every girl in the venue – that will draw attention you don’t want and might rub people the wrong way.

Rolling with friends solves half your problems. Locals know who’s who, and they help you avoid stepping on the wrong toes. If you want to drink a bit, stay tipsy at most and never get drunk. Ulaanbaatar at night rewards awareness.

This is why I have to repeat this: If you want to avoid awkward public approaches completely, or rubbing somebody the wrong way (and having your nose pay for it), start your dates with girls open to foreign men instead. It’s the safest and easiest way to meet women here, in my opinion.

Wrapping up

Overall, I was thoroughly impressed with the girls in Mongolia. You’ll find some sweet, but fun-loving girls in this country – all of them with incredible bodies.

I don’t doubt you’ll be able to find some fine Mongolian girls here. Best of luck and happy hunting!

Oh, and don’t forget to stay in a ger or yurt for at least one night! A worthwhile experience.