Dating Indonesian Women – What Is It Like? [Full Guide for Foreigners]

If you’re a Western man who wants to have a great vacation and are currently looking for love, Indonesia might be the perfect country for you to visit.

Famous for its natural beauty, as well as the gentle and beautiful women, Indonesia is one of the Heavens on earth that you must visit at least once in a lifetime.

It could be fantastic! Imagine finding love on vacation…. But hold on. There are many things that you have to know about Indonesian girls first.

I’ll spill the beans and tell you all the truths I know about them. Being that I am one, I think that I can offer some unique insight and ‘secrets’ you won’t find anywhere else.

(Ben’s note: Yes, I managed to convince a native Indonesian lady to share her thoughts and insights to make things even easier for us, the males)

The beauty of Indonesian women is already known to the world. You might also want to know more about their personalities and character.

So why is it exactly that looking for love in Indonesia might be a great idea for Western men?

Indonesian Women are Naturally Beautiful

beautiful Indonesian woman

As we already know, Indonesia is a country that is rich and vibrant in culture.

We have a lot of islands, languages, and tribes. Every Indonesian woman was born with a special, natural beauty.

For a long time, their natural beauty has been undeniable to Western men. Moreover, when they wear traditional clothing with all its accessories, most Western men will find them stunningly beautiful.

Physically, even if they come from different tribes, most Indonesian women are well known for their unique exotic skin color and complexion.

According to many Western men, the uniqueness of Indonesian women’s exotic skin color and complexion is one of the few first reasons that attract them.

They don’t need effort to sunbathe or use any skincare because Indonesian women were born with such natural beauty – and most with nearly flawless.

Indonesian women are attractive and naturally beautiful. Nice eyes, long, dark hair and incredibly beautiful skin elevate Indonesian women to the highest order of beauty.

It is undeniable that physical attractiveness and lovely skin color awaken Western men’s curiosity and desire – they long to find out more and get acquainted with them.

Of course, there is more than just physical attractiveness: the Indonesian culture is something to admire, so we’ll touch that a bit below.

Warm and Caring Feelings From Indonesia

When you get to know Indonesian women, you will find that most are friendly and warm to foreigners.

Greetings with a sweet smile always decorate their faces, and an attitude of respect is the Indonesian culture that you will always find in most of Indonesian women.

For many Western men, this is a welcome rarity.

The kind and gentle Indonesian women’s demeanor leaves a distinct impression for Western men who are getting to know them for the first time.

You don’t need to hesitate to get to know and approach them, because you will find many of their positive traits that will surely make you fall in love almost immediately.

Yes, the more you know them, the more you don’t want to let them go.

Make certain not to forget that you come from different cultural background. In the process of getting to know them, you will find many cultural differences.

That doesn’t mean it will be an obstacle to get acquainted or to be in a lasting relationship with them.

If you make the effort to get to know and love an Indonesian woman, your life will never be the same ?

Looking for a partner who has certain blood lineage?

There are several regions in Indonesia where the women are the most attractive to Western men.

For example, some Western men will prioritize a certain blood lineage. Specifically, Balinese women & Javanese women stand out for many men. Why? They are deeply rooted in their customs and cultures, and many Western men greatly appreciate that.

For Balinese women, Bali Island is probably the most well-known island in Indonesia to foreigners.

Bali temple

In addition to their deep-rooted culture and customs, the women who dress in traditional clothes often give the charming appearance for Western men.

Most of the women are very open-minded – a blend of traditional and modern customs – and Indonesian women are extremely intelligent.

What Makes Javanese Women Special?

What about Javanese women? Javanese women are women from Yogyakarta, Central Java, and East Java of Java Island.

Especially Yogyakarta and Surakarta (part of Central Java) are considered some of the most popular tourist destinations in Indonesia.

Their “Keraton” (Yogyakarta and Surakarta’s kingdom) customs and culture are still dominant in daily life.

“Keraton” is a palace of the Javanese kingdom. In Yogyakarta, this palace is open for tourists at certain times.

Tourists can look around the palace, and there are culture exhibitions, gamelan (traditional music) and traditional dance.  As a tourist, you are more than welcome to join in the festivities.

For most Western men, these kind of “Keraton” customs and culture are fascinating. Their cultures usually attract Western men and a lot of Western men want to find love with Javanese women.

Due to their upbringing and traditional culture, most Javanese women are very polite, friendly, gentle and very respectful toward men.

Their mannerisms and attitude are heavily influenced by the culture of “Keraton”. These women are very unique and noble.

If you’re someone who is into art and culture, like to be creative, and are a little bit of a free spirit, you will be the perfect match with a Javanese woman.

You can join some cultural and art exhibitions, learn, and you will have a most wonderful experience.

Other than Balinese women, Javanese women, there are still many tribes in Indonesia.

For instance, Sundanese women (West Java), Betawi women (Jakarta), and many more outside of Java Island.

Due to their upbringing and culture, there must be some unique traits or characteristics which usually they have in their personalities.

Depends on your preferences, you will find them attractive and fascinating too.

So if you want to know more about them, it’s better to meet and experience their culture directly.

Indonesian Women are Very Loyal and Faithful

Indonesian women are also known for their loyalty to their partner, and according to some Western men, this is one of the things that captivates their hearts.

This is part of the Indonesian culture.

For most Indonesian women, being loyal to their partner isn’t a temporary matter, but a form of commitment in carrying out the relationship to the next level.

As a wife, Indonesian women will uphold the values that exist in marriage, they won’t ruin it with infidelity.

Wherever their husband is, they will remain faithful, waiting for him to return to her. This loyal nature is desired by every man when looking for a companion or partner, and you can find it in spades with Indonesian women.

In addition to being loyal and faithful, and perhaps a bit out of the ordinary nowadays, Indonesian women are willing to sacrifice for the sake of her loved ones – whatever needs to be done, she will do it happily for the betterment of her family.

Indonesian women will serve as your partner, your wife, and as the mother of your children well. If you want to be the head of the family, they will carry out their role as a wife and as a mother perfectly.

They will give their best to make you, her family happy. They won’t feel forced.

It’s kind of outdated in many modern societies, but Indonesian women still believe their role as a woman is to support their partner.

She might have a high education, good career, and an amazing life, but if you wish her to stay and give you her full support she will bend over backwards for you without question.

Indonesian Women are Very Family-Oriented

If you’re a family man and would like to have a close relationship with your partner’s family and friends, Indonesian women might be a great match for you.

The most important thing when you want to get to know Indonesian women is being open, honest with your intentions, and the vision of your future with (or without) her. When she feels compatible with you, she will open her heart to you unconditionally.

When you have Indonesian woman as your partner, and you have received her full trust, she will soon introduce you to her close friends, siblings, and family. From then on, you will be involved in their family events and celebrations.

You will get to know her and her family better since you will spend more time with her and her family. At this point, she trusts you and is proud of you as her partner.

Indonesian culture traditions

In addition, when you finally make a family with her, you will find the greatness and intelligent side of the Indonesian women accompanying you in life.

As long as you treat her with full respect and kindness, you will receive never-ending love from her.

Your Indonesian woman will give full attention to your needs and desires. As it becomes easier to communicate and to adapt to each other’s differences, Indonesian women are able to accept all the strengths and weaknesses of their partners.

They are ready to serve their families without fail. It won’t be difficult for you to lead the family and become the head of the household.

Just know that will have the strongest partner possible for your family if you choose an Indonesian woman.

Indonesian Women are Economical and Amazing Cooks

When you get married to Indonesian woman and you want her to be your support system, she will give her absolute best to support you in whatever it is you are trying to accomplish.

traditional Indonesian food

Being economical is important to Indonesian women. As a wife, she will readily manage all income and expenditure of the family finances.

Indonesian women are modest and they can easily suit themselves to their family financial situation.

Amazing, aren’t they?

Moreover, Indonesian women can cook. This was part of their upbringing and they love to prepare delicious meals for their loved ones.

They mostly can cook a variety of delicious Indonesian foods, such as Soto, bakso, siomay and Gado-gado.

If you’re not a big fan of Indonesian food (and if you haven’t yet tried it you MUST give it an honest effort because it’s so yummy!), you can request that she learns to cooking Western foods, and she will happily take on this task for you.

Since your Indonesian Woman decided to take the role of supporting you, she will happily work on her skills to cook Western foods for you. Once she are able to master cooking Western foods, she is perfect, isn’t she?

Even though they are willing to cook Western foods for you, both of you might still have different preferences in foods.

You don’t have to like the same foods. She can prefer Indonesian food and you can prefer Western foods.

The thing is, those differences make your relationship more fun and colorful. Sometimes, you can even try to have combination of Western foods and Indonesian foods. We call it fusion, and it can be a lot of fun.  

Don’t worry about foods, though. Most of foreigners, especially Western men, end up loving Indonesian foods, and I’m certain you will too.

You will be Respected and Loved Unconditionally

Most of Indonesian women want someone to protect them and keep them safe. Indonesian women view Western men as strong, open minded, romantic, and a man who treats women with kindness and respect.

These traits of Western men are very attractive to Indonesian women.

Once you’re able to get into their heart and they can feel your love and feel protected, you don’t need to worry about not getting love from your Indonesian wife.

In return for how you treat them, you will be respected, served, and loved a lot. They will cook for you every day and they will give you lots of love every day.

Sounds Ok?

Having an Indonesian women as your partner, you don’t need to be afraid to express whatever your feelings are.

Indonesian women are known to be very diligent, motherly, nurturing and patient. With their high maternal qualities, they will listen to all your complaints patiently. This will make you feel free to express anything about yourself or your feelings.

Without you even having to ask, she will gladly give you all the attention you could ever want.

She will be everything to you. She can be a wife, a best friend, and a soulmate to you because of the comfort you will feel at all times.

Indonesian women are physically attractive and tend to look young almost forever…

In terms of age and physical attractiveness of Indonesian women, Western men often wrongly guess Indonesian women’s age.

No doubt, it’s one of the reasons why Indonesian women are so attractive in the eye of Western men. They age very gracefully.

Indonesian women are very petite, and it usually will awaken a feeling of wanting to protect and keep them safe.

In addition to that, if you decided to marry and have a family with an Indonesian woman, your child will be mixed race.

This is mostly known by people around the world that mixed children from Asian and Western parents are going to be charming and beautiful.

The children usually are going to have a face that looks perfect from the eyes, nose, and lips. Their skin complexion will also turn out very lovely. The charms will be overload and you won’t be able to get enough of your children.

If you get to know an Indonesian woman, you will be able to find many surprising things within them. Indonesian women seem to be the ideal match for Western men.

Two people with different backgrounds that attract each other with their uniqueness, customs, culture, and also the special characteristics they have.

Indonesian Women are Very Friendly

If you’re quiet Western men, you don’t have to worry, Indonesian women are friendly and easy to talk with. Most of them understand and know what to do in any situation.

Indonesian women tend to see Western men as someone special, so they won’t hesitate to start a conversation, and joke around with you.

By talking and joking with you, they are trying to make you feel comfortable and absorbed in getting acquainted and communicating with them.

Well, what are you waiting for? You can pack up and fly to Indonesia, find the love of your life. You can even start before-hand and sign up for the best dating website in the country (click to read Ben’s review).

Every place in Indonesia has their own unique characteristics, cultures, and customs.

You’re going to probably want to start in Jakarta, and move on from there. There are so many special wonders waiting for you in Indonesia.

Have and amazing vacation, be open to meeting new people, enjoy yourself, and you will certainly find someone special in ‘The Emerald of The Equator’.

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2 thoughts on “Dating Indonesian Women – What Is It Like? [Full Guide for Foreigners]”

    • I am sorry to hear that you drew this conclusion, but it’s definitely not the case, nor my intention.

      I would love to read your description of Indonesian women and see how I can perfect the article above.


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