For being a place that’s so easy to get it on, Thailand sure can be… complicated. Sure, Thai girls are very friendly and interested in dating foreigners, which is all nice… but then we have the infamous Thai bar girls…
It’s enough to make any sane man shake his head in disbelief and especially fool newcomers to Thailand. And if you are looking to meet a genuine Thai woman, then continue reading my short but comprehensive guide to bar girls in Thailand.
This is supposed to be simple, after all.
And when you thought you had it all simplified, Thai bar girls come into play, making you wonder… what are they in the end? They won’t straight up take money for going to your room… but they’re not far away from this either.
They are not quite doing this for a living, they tend to be affectionate, and a little bit more “normal girls” but they are not genuine girls. Don’t marry them. Don’t knock them up. In short, don’t do anything crazy.
The #1 Rule of Thai Bar Girls…
Ludacris himself once rapped…
Cant turn a ho into a housewife
Hos don’t act right
There’s hos on a mission, an hoes on a crack-pipe
Hey ho how ya doing, where ya been?
Probably doing ho stuff cause there you ho again
Its a ho wide world, that we living in
That’s the number one rule of dealing with Thai bar women: don’t try to turn them into a housewife.
I mean, look at your regular old guy walking hand in hand with a young, beautiful woman from Thailand.
There’s a 50/50 chance he took this girl home and fell in love with her. Do you really think she had feelings for him? Most likely not.
Understanding the Nature of Bar Girls in Thailand
Often times, these girls are hot.
This isn’t a black and white rule, but it holds mostly true. Hot girls hold positions where being hot gets them more tips.
Sure, there are some that look like they’ve been hit with a shovel, but most of them are at least decent looking.
This means that outside of work, they probably have some options with guys. They are quite literally just in the bar game, because this is what life had in store for them. This is important to understanding why you shouldn’t get attached, but also for another point.
If you want her to be genuinely interested in you (and she’ll definitely act the part), you should be a cool, chill guy with his life together.
Don’t be like the guy described above – desperate and ready to believe any lie. Of course, the flip side of this is that…
…if you are that guy, why would you need to go after Thai bar girls?
Sure, a romp might be fun, but what’s the point?
You can easily get a high-quality girl who doesn’t sell her body for cash off of a site like Thai Cupid.
Sure, maybe you can talk a Thai bar girl into doing nasty things with you free of charge, but when you think about what she may have done the night before – it loses a bit of the appeal. At least for me – to each their own.
Is She Real?
The thing is, some of these girls are “real”. They may be actually looking for a relationship, and tell you so. There is a fine line between a prostitute and a bar girl, and the scene in Thailand is a bit messy to begin with.
Some of these girls are just trying to provide for their family. Perhaps they’re the only breadwinner, the only way food gets put on the table for a family of 5.
However, just because they’ll do this for money doesn’t mean they don’t want that relationship.
In fact, if they find the right relationship with a guy who can help fund some of their life, they’d likely jump on that ship.
The point is, if they can find that right balance of sugar daddy and relationship, they’ll likely take that over trying to find someone new every night for some extra cash. What I am trying to say is that most of these girls are not bad people, but I still ask – why?
Why take the risk?
While maybe some happy couples end up in relationships, there’s plenty of guys who have bought a house, opened an online business, and moved their life to Thailand for a Thai bar girl.
And then had it all ripped away.
- General crap.
Guys go and buy an entire house and then lose it all the day after they sign their name on the dotted line.
Hell, even in the Western world at least you get half of it (usually).
That won’t be the case when a Thai lawyer and mobster is knocking on your door and telling you that your Thai bar girl has stabbed you in the back and is taking everything from you. And it’s not a nice situation to be in, no matter what.
Be very, very wary of Thai bar girls.
You need to have your head screwed on – not off. If you exercise caution, you can probably have some fun with them. Again though, getting things done in Thailand with “normal” girls is not exactly rocket science.
And the last thing I want is to talk rocket science in the bedroom.
PS: If you want to keep it simple when it comes to your relationships in Thailand, just sign up for Thai Cupid. That’s where you will find plenty of genuine girls that are a much better choice, in my opinion.