British Men Guide: What to Expect in a Relationship

It’s time to dust off your teacups, sharpen your wit, and embrace a dose of British charm today, as we’re talking about British men. We’re actually focusing on what to expect when dating a man from Britain and everything related to that.

From their dry humor to their love for a ‘proper cuppa’, I’ll shed light on what you can expect when you want to get more serious with a man from Great Britain.

Plus insider’s insights on what they like in a woman and how to handle long distance relationships with them.

In other words: everything you need to know about British men. So grab your tea and let’s get it started!

What’s it like dating a British man

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In terms of dating, British men’s behaviors tend to be very tricky. Especially for someone who’s not from the UK and does not have a similar culture. 

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They’re honest and polite

British people as a whole are notorious for using the magic words more than other cultures. Politeness is their cultural trait.

A British man will be uttering sorry several times a day even for little things. Manners carry a big weight in British personality. It’s how they’ve been taught from a young age.

So if you want to make a good impression on your British man, you should be careful how you treat random people around you.

British people not only are polite but they’re also very honest. They don’t play games.

They won’t be giving you any sort of compliment or flirty words if they don’t really mean it.

When referring to British men in relationship, they may be polite but if something bothers them, they don’t mind on complaining about it. I find them very similar to men in Sweden in this regards and I am sure women can appreciate it.

Their sense of humor is on another level

Brits have got a sharpen tongue, that’s a well known fact. Their jokes are so uproarious that your dates would never get boring.

This is what makes them even more irresistible. They tend to have many types of humor: dark, witty, slapstick and even innuendo.

Sometimes their jokes may appear offensive to some, and they can be very dry at times, but you shouldn’t be concerned. A relationship with a British man is definitely going to be fun and full of laughs, joy and good cheer.

Their charming accent is their weapon to make women go crazy about them

You’ve always heard it: British accents are the most attractive accents for men to have. I personally prefer Spanish accents when it comes to women (and I do have a soft spot for Colombians for example), to be honest, but that’s just an uncommon opinion.

If generalized, women tend to get attracted by a man’s voice or how their speaking sounds, more than other physical appearances.

British accent is perceived to be soft, pleasing and smart. And yes, they’re aware of this.

So here you have an advice if you’re going to date a British man: Do not let his accent fool you. Try to listen to what he’s really saying instead of focusing in his accent!

Drinking culture in Britain

The whole world knows: Brits drink a lot! Very simple, it’s a “daily meal” and a part of their culture.

Drinking behavior starts in a young age in the UK. So if you’re going to date a British man, you gotta get used to have every dinner date accompanied with beers and wine bottles.

And if you’re already a drink lover, then you earned some brownie points with your British man, without even trying.

It’s a cup of tea, not a cup of coffee 

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British people are tea drinking nation. 84% of the British population drink tea every day (according to this source).

Dating a British man means solving or discussing any sort of problem with one another with a cup of tea on the table. It might not be your thing right away, but you will learn to love tea.

If not, they will surely not mind if you’re going to have your regular cup of coffee instead.

Oh, and don’t be surprised if they invite you for “tea” only to find out that there’s an actual dinner feast prepared for you. It’s common in Britain to refer call dinner – tea. And to give them some points for that, there will usually be some tea there too.

Brits prefer personality over appearance 

British men tend to have a very rare and good trait, that we’re used to hear a lot, but barely see it in reality. It’s a trait that every woman would love.

Men from Britain do not look for perfection in a woman’s appearance – instead, they really consider the personality of a woman as an important factor.

Sure, looks matter as it is the case with most people, be them men or women, but they do not portray ideal beauty standards or body images of women as nowadays men tend to do so.

They are reserved and not into PDA

British men tend to be much more reserved and less affectionate than the other cultures. This causes them to be seen as unfriendly and unemotional to strangers.

But this is not who they are. They can be good friends, good listeners, and communicative. It just takes them a bit longer to open up. It is very similar to how men behave in most Nordic countries, such as men from Norway, from example.

However, when it comes to relationships with women, this particularity will only be present in the early stages. As he gets more used to you and your company, he will start opening up a bit more.

But if you really want to date a British man, and he doesn’t seem to be ready to approach you, you should consider taking the first step. It won’t be considered inappropriate – quite the contrary. Most men I know in the UK would really appreciate it.

As reserved as British people are, not showing affection in public is pretty much the norm. Public displays of affection are not a British thing. They like to keep things in private and somehow save their “reputation” (the royalty matter).

What does a British man like in a woman?

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I’ve already touched this subject throughout the article so far, but I wanted to get a bit more in depth here as most women are probably asking themselves this question.

Probably one of the most important things that Brits want in a woman is a mentally engaging companionship. This comes true from the “personality” thing that we’ve already discussed.

A woman who can challenge and entertain with her thoughts, intellect, and wit is highly valued here.

Likewise, an independent spirit and self-sufficiency will be usually perceived as a positive trait.

British men tend to appreciate women who can navigate the world on their own terms, their life not solely revolving around the relationship and the “housewife” mentality.

It’s one of the few places in the world – that I know of, at least – where this is highly appreciated instead of being frowned upon.

We also have a quintessentially British affinity for understated elegance that might also influence romantic preferences. A woman who embodies an aesthetic that’s more classic than flashy, more Audrey Hepburn than Kardashian, is often found attractive.

It is that subtle grace that speaks volumes for men here, an elegant minimalism that still shows plenty of attention for your looks and respect for your own person that really attracts them.

Sure, there are various people out there and some might like the super-high maintenance girls like Eastern European women usually offer… but generally, they’re more about natural beauty and fine touches instead.

Lastly, a shared love for a cuppa in the morning or evening, an appreciation – or at least understanding – of the classic British humor, or the shared anticipation for the King’s Christmas Speech – these shared cultural moments can serve as building blocks for deeper connection.

How to make a British man to like you?

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If you want some more to the point advice on actionable tips to have British men like you, I’m listing them below.

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4 do’s to make British men like you

1. Show interest – Don’t be afraid to show interest. Staring at each other won’t really help. As reserved and polite that they are, approaching a woman without her giving a signal, isn’t really a British man’s thing. 

2. Work on your future self – British man tend to get attracted to brainy and kind women. They appreciate clever, witty and well-mannered women, so make sure you make these things obvious as soon as possible.

3. Learn some history – British people take pride of their history – and for all the right reasons. So having some knowledge about their history, culture and traditions would help to understand him better and give you some extra points.

4. Consider splitting the bill – Chivalry is not dead, and traditionally, it’s the man who has to pay the bill when you go out.

But gender equality is also widespread in the UK. Generally, British women offer to split the bill if there have been several dates and they’re into each other. He might not accept, but at least try and let him know that you want to do this.

4 Don’ts 

1. Don’t delay meeting them in person – British men prefer face to face dates to online ones as it may seem a waste of time if they don’t meet sooner and see if they match. So don’t delay meeting them in person – it’s an important step in a relationship!

2. Don’t mistake soccer with football – If you’re not into sports, better stay out of this kind of discussion. It’s better than underestimating the importance of football to British men by calling football – soccer or vice versa.

3. Don’t tell them what to do – British men, as prideful as they are, hate being told what to do. It’s a definite turn-off if you try that, especially if you just started dating. As they appreciate you as an independent person, they expect the same.

4. Don’t discus incomes early on – To British men this is considered rude and inappropriate. Personal finances is something to discuss when the relationship becomes more serious.

Dating a British man long distance: tips & tricks

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Engaging in a long-distance relationship with a British man is something that we’re forced to do in today’s world.

And while he will surely do everything he can to meet you in person if everything goes well, there are still things you should be aware of to keep the flame burning during a long distance relationship with a British man.

It’s extremely important to master the art of communication which is basically your invisible thread across the miles.

Regular video chats are a must, through whatever platform you prefer. There are plenty for these, from Skype to Zoom to WhatsApp and everything in between.

Make sure to create virtual dates that are fun and exciting, offering face-to-face interaction, even amidst the physical distance. It’s up to you to decide how far to take it, but never feel forced to do something you are not comfortable with.

Especially if you haven’t built enough trust. You don’t want him recording those chats – better be safe than sorry.

Don’t forget, however, to give each other space, even if you already have plenty of that physically separating you.

Creating healthy boundaries is as essential as maintaining the lines of communication in a relationship, no matter if it is long distance or not.

While they may be a long-distance partner, remembering their love for politeness, the British “please” and “thank you,” can go a long way.

Lastly, plan for the future. Whether it’s the next visit, or longer-term plans of closing the distance, knowing that there’s a shared goal in sight can make the everyday challenges of long-distance dating more manageable.

As I said, Brits will do everything they can to visit you in person as often as possible. From flying over to visit to bringing you to his home, they’ll always strive to make it happen. Make sure you play your part here too.

Wrapping up

This guide to British men tries to help you better understand these men, their expectations from relationships – be them long distance or not – but also what they offer in return for your love.

Brits are really polite and nice to be around and they do respect women more than your regular man. They are the living proof that chivalry’s not dead, but that without turning them into traditional, old school men.

On the contrary, they appreciate strong, independent women and encourage their partners to follow their dreams and act as an individual.

If you have additional things to add to my complete guide to British men, feel free to do so by commenting below.

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