How to Date Thai Women (Full Guide for Foreigners)

If there’s one thing that will get a man to book a plane ticket to Southeast Asia, it’s the prospect of being able to date a Thai women. They’re beautiful. Feminine. Full of life and fun. And they like foreigners.

In this article, you’ll get a comprehensive guide to everything Thai and how to increase your chances of scoring a date with a woman from Thailand.

We’ll talk about the three options you have to meet Thailand women. We’ll also talk about the numerous red flags to watch out for.

You’ll also learn how to handle Thai women in a relationship (and how to screen for the best one possible).

In other words, a complete guide to meeting the nice girls in Thailand and staying away from the gold diggers and scammers. Because, unfortunately, you have high chances of stumbling into one.

If you want to play it safe, even before you start reading about women in Thailand, make sure you sign up for the best place for meeting them: Thai Cupid. You’ll thank me later!

Women in Thailand: Physical Appearance

beautiful thai lady

As far as Southeast Asia goes, Thai women are definitely near the cream of the crop. In my opinion, they have prettier faces than girls in the Philippines, for example (not that those are ugly – FAR from it!).

Women in Thailand have golden-brown skin, generally toned bodies and a good facial structure. You will surely not see many butterfaces around (don’t know the term yet?)

What I like the most about Thailand women is that they are more petite than most. This is definitely a personal preference and I know men who like tall and slender girls, but to me, the fact that they are shorter than the norm is a huge bonus.

Tip: If you are tall, that’s an extra bonus for you. Thai men are usually on the short side and ladies there love themselves a tall boy.

You might ask me what first brought me to Thailand. 

Well, my answer is about the same as most expats: the low cost of living and the beautiful girls.

And really, they are. Plus, everyone can find something to their taste.

Like I mentioned before, most of them have tanned skin, but you’ll also find light-skinned Thai women. You’ll find girls with swimsuit model bodies. Some Thai women have great curves – albeit not as good as Indonesian girls.

No matter what, if you’re coming from the western dating scene, you’ll be pleasantly surprised when you arrive in Thailand.

Beautiful ladies everywhere, girls that recognize the power of their beauty – and lots of smiling. Your mood goes to 110% instantly.

Also, Thai women seem to believe that, “Men like a beautiful women, so I must be beautiful.” And they are!

Personality of Thai Women

As you probably suspected from the previous sentences, Thai women have extremely pleasant personalities.

Thai people in general tend to be a bit more reserved. You won’t find any Thai women cursing, being overtly loud, or just acting up in public.

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On a date, they are respectful – they leave the smartphones away, give you full eye contact, and generally treat you well.

Contrast this to being on a date with a western girl – you’re fighting her smartphone for attention, as well as all the guys trying to slide into her DMs, and her mom who won’t stop calling her (even though mom knows she’s on a date).

Thai girls are very happy to be feminine and sweet. They make great relationship partners, but also like to have fun. In fact, that’s a huge part of the Thai culture – to enjoy life, no matter what.

Did I say that they smile a lot? They do! It’s absolutely amazing to see those natural, genuine, beautiful smiles everywhere.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that any lady smiling at you wants to be your partner. Most of them don’t and those who do are really shy early on in your relationship (or when you first meet them).

But once you get to know them and once they get to trust you (remember: many were hurt a lot by men, be them locals or foreigners), she’s an absolute gem. The ideal woman, I would say. There’s no other way to put it!

This also makes them great partners if it’s something more serious that you want. But the good thing is that even if you’re more hookup oriented, you will have plenty of options to choose from.

Now that you’ve had an introduction to the personalities and physical aspects of Thai girls, let’s move on to where to meet them!

How to Meet Thai Women

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As with most places in the world, you’ve got three options as to “how” to meet girls.

  1. Utilizing online dating methods – this is EXTREMELY popular in Thailand and the easiest way to go (Click here for my recommended website for this).
  2. Meet them during the day – whether it be at university, a coffee shop, or just on the street – Thai girls will be happy to talk to you, provided their English is good enough.
  3. Talk to them at night – the nightlife scene in Thailand is big, especially in cities like Bangkok or Chiang Mai. This can be a great way to find more party-oriented girls.

In addition, if you have more “permanent” roots in Thailand (as in, more than a month), you’ve also got the option of getting into some social circles. Sometimes it just takes making friends with the right expat. The guy who has connections in the club. Or at a language school. It’s not that difficult to make friends in Thailand, in reality.

These can be great opportunities to meet Thai women because you already are pre-vetted and pre-screened. Just being a friend of a friend’s friend can make all the difference.

But, Thailand is still easy even if you’re starting from ground zero. Certainly don’t let that discourage you.

How to Meet Thai Girls on Short Trips

This section is specifically for those of you who are taking a shorter jaunt to Thailand. Maybe you’ve just got two weeks of vacation to burn. Perhaps you are contemplating a more permanent move.


If you’re doing a trip for less than a month, you absolutely must use online dating (there are how-to guides further down in this article).

While you could land with no online dating leads in your phone and still end up in a relationship with a Thai girl – why take the risk?

It will make you far more comfortable, confident, and attractive in a new foreign country knowing that you have a date set up as soon as your plane hits the tarmac.

The best rule of thumb is to start messaging girls when you are at least 2 weeks away from landing in Thailand.

This gives you enough time to message enough girls. Dating is always a numbers game, and you need to make sure you get your reps in!

This is also enough time to allow the girls to get to know you a bit and really look forward to meeting you.

Because, despite what many tell you – the REAL Thai women will never jump into the bed of any stranger they meet. Have this in mind and RESPECT the women here!

Comprehensive Guide to Online Dating in Thailand

online dating in Thailand

As far as online dating, there are various options that you have when it comes to meeting the girls, but my favorite one is (click below to visit):

Thai Cupid

Should you go for more than that? I would NOT.

Yes, there are plenty of other sites that you can use to meet Thai women, but they’re usually not worth the time.

On top of that, having too many dating sites to manage can get overwhelming. Just too many cooks in the kitchen.

And you’ll get plenty of girls to meet on Thai Cupid – there are always hundreds (actually, usually over 1,000) active users on the platform at each moment of the day… so definitely no reasons to worry here.

Not to mention the fact that it’s a lot safer and chances of meeting a scammer (or a fake profile) are minimal. I won’t go as far as saying that there’s no risk – but it’s a lot less than elsewhere.

Plus, you already know the red flags to be aware of (if not, check out the “Red flags” section below in this article)!

You also get a bunch of advantages on this site compared to free ones. You show them that you are committed to this (because you pay a premium monthly fee which is cheap by Western standards). This matters a lot to them.

Also, you will have a lot less competition here. On Tinder, for example – which is free to use – you will have to battle tons of other males, both foreigners and locals (but also fake profiles). It’s much easier to stand out when there aren’t 500 dudes trying to do the same thing.

Trust me, you will be extremely satisfied with Thai Cupid. I love it, I’ve had amazing success with it and you will to.

Make sure you read my Thai Cupid review if you need the in-depth look at it.

After You’ve Gotten Her Number…

You’ve got her number and moved away from Thai Cupid, it means that things are serious.

Of course, you can still be on the website and instant message with her – but you do need to exchange numbers (and double check on her) before meeting.

This is the point where a lot of guys “lose” a girl – they get stuck in messaging purgatory, with no way to escape. Well, there’s a simple solution to it…

Be aggressive!

Girls always respect a man who goes after what he wants. They find it attractive. So you don’t need to beat around the bush with her.

She knows why you messaged her to begin with – you found her attractive and had an interest in meeting her in real life and see where that leads.

how to date a thai lady

So don’t hide this, getting into the endless back and forth that they’re very comfortable with.

Instead, chit-chat just a bit. Ask her how her day is. Then, drop this foolproof line:

“You seem like a great girl, let’s meet and have a coffee or drink.”

Just like that, you’ve given her a compliment and asked her out in a direct, straightforward fashion. Best of all, you’ve put the ball 100% in her court.

She either says yes, or she says no.

No time wasted on your side.

One of the biggest issues guys have with girls is not putting the onus on the girl to make a decision.

You want to meet girls who are enthusiastic about meeting you. If she waffles and says something in the middle, she’s likely to lose you. Forever.

You are just screening for girls who are the most enthusiastic about meeting you. Those are the best dates and the girls you are most likely to have a connection and some compatibility with.

Being a man who values who you spend your time with, as opposed to any random girl, shows that you are valuable and have self esteem. Thai women (well, all women really) find this attractive.

Red Flags of Thai Women

beautiful Thailand lady

Alright, so now that you’ve learned a little bit about the general philosophies of Thai dating ins and outs, let’s discuss the Thai women you should 100% AVOID.

Let’s be clear, too – there’s a reason I’m writing these down. Both myself and fellow friends have been fooled on more than one occasion, and I’m looking out for you. I hate when people go to Thailand and have a bad experience – and then never return.

There’s nothing more disheartening than to hear a man’s story that he’s unsatisfied with his love life in the western world, but then has a worse experience in Thailand too. Then he just gives up on dating altogether.

While these are genuine concerns regarding some Thai girls, with a little bit of common sense you can avoid most, if not all, scams and pitfalls.

Bad seeds are all over the world, so it’s not just a Thailand thing. But since the country is so popular and they know many males come here for the girl, chances to stumble upon one of the scammers are higher.

So keep an eye on the following red flags to avoid problems.

#1: The “I’m Broke” Red Flag

Common sense dictates that a foreigner probably has more money than the locals in the case of Thailand.

In addition, Thailand is more of a traditional dating scene anyway. Generally speaking, you won’t see a Thai girl arguing with her Thai date that she should pay the bill.

Whereas in the west, a girl will argue about that with you because she wants to show that she is strong and independent by making her own money.

That attitude doesn’t exist in Thailand. This means that they are happy to let the man pay even though some might want to chip in for their share.

However, if you are well-off, you can then reasonably be expected to foot the bill for a date with a Thai girl. And that’s perfectly okay.

But some girls take it a bit farther than letting you buy them a bowl of noodles or a coffee.

My grandmother, four cousins, and their GOAT are all very sick! They all will die TOMORROW if they don’t get help!!!

Of course, I am exaggerating a bit – but I do so to prove a point. Basically, anything that involves needing money urgently and right away from the girl is a major red flag. Walk away from her as fast as you can!

It doesn’t matter at what point in the relationship this happens – could be at the second date, could be after a couple of months, when you’ve gained “trust”. When this happens, just run!

There is a huge difference between being chivalrous (which is okay) and being a sponsor. Don’t fall into the trap of the second one. Especially since in most cases, nobody’s actually sick.

#2: Thai Bar Girls

In short, they’re not in it for the relationship. They are experts in making you giving them money or keeping you around. They’ll stop at no costs. It’s all trickery, and it’s obvious to someone on the outside… but many men are happy to play this game.

thai bar girls

If that’s your thing, you afford it and you like it… do it. But don’t you believe for a second that this girl will ever be in a real relationship with you (or that you’re being exclusive).

I think that we, men, are biologically programmed to fall for these kind of things. I’ve seen countless dudes come to Thailand and fall in love with a bar girl. 

But it’s not genuine!

Anyone from the outside can see she’s using him (and has hit the jackpot), but he just foots her bills and follows her around like a lost puppy.

Believe it or not, this happens fairly often. So don’t be one of the guys who falls in love with a bar girl!

#3: The Ones Who Won’t Meet

This one is pretty simple to spot. If you meet a girl online, but she just doesn’t want to meet you in the real life – walk away.

If she keeps up the façade for a while, you can rest assured the “I need money” is coming soon. Probably to pay for Grandma’s goat.

Even if that never comes and she wants an “Internet Relationship”, why would you bother? There are millions of amazing Thai girls out there who WILL meet you, so don’t waste too much energy on the ones who WON’T.

Alright, so that wraps up the four HUGE red flags of Thai women. Now, let’s move on to some happier topics, shall we?

Dating Thai Women: What Is It Like?

dating Thai woman

No matter where you meet them (online, day, night), you can keep things simple. Just send her some messages and ask when she’s free. Ask her out to a coffee or a drink. That’s all it takes, really – and it will naturally go on from there.

Most girls in Thailand, contrary to popular belief (because we’re talking about genuine girls, not the “bar girl” type) will have you chasing them for a bit before coming up to your room for some Netflix & chill.

So do your part without being a creep that keeps pushing her, but at the same time be confident and chivalrous.

Many foreigners come there acting like crap, so you’ll be a nice change. And for the real Thai ladies out there, it’s really worth being the nice guy. Trust me!

You shouldn’t consider them as toys or anything like this. They are genuine human beings with feelings, just like anybody else. Treat them with respect and you will get the same!

Deeper Relationships With Thai Girls

Thai women are just fantastic. I keep saying that.

They have their own personalities, interests, and dreams. They will do things to make you feel special, and make you feel valued. This is true no matter how long or how little time you are spending time in Thailand.

No matter what, they want you to know that they were happy to have you in their life, no matter for how long.

Sure, there are some girls who are “Farang Hunters” (hunting foreigners for their money). You won’t be her first, or last one. But obviously not all of them are like this.

As you progress into dating a Thai girl on a deeper level, you’ll be amazed at how she treats you. These are some of the things that she might do for you:

Note: Don’t expect her to do that, though. After all, that’s not her job, but I am sure that many will still do at least some things on this list just because they like you. Make sure to let her know that you appreciate it!

  • Cooks all your favorite Thai meals, whenever you want.
  • Asks you to teach her your favorite meals from HOME so she can start cooking them for you (be aware you’ll have to probably modify some ingredients).
  • Takes care of your domestic needs.
  • Tidies up your entire apartment before she leaves.
  • Is always smiling and keeping your mood to 100% (or more, if that’s even possible)
  • Is ready to follow you anywhere you go, whatever you do (yes, they are VERY committed to this!)
  • Generally… just treats you like a king…

…and I really mean that.

I was very unhappy with the dating scene in the western world, but moving to Thailand changed all of that. It made me realize that there are some great girls still out there in the world. Girls who actually like men. Girls who get that a feminine, sweet woman helps make YOUR life easier.

Thai women understand the beauty of genuine attraction, desire, and mutual respect. No matter if you are searching for a wife, someone to date, or a fling – I’m confident you’ll find it in Thailand.

But be careful. You just might never return home. Not that it would be a problem…

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2 thoughts on “How to Date Thai Women (Full Guide for Foreigners)”

  1. Hi Calin,

    Firstly, I want to thank you so much for sharing your experience which has helped me to realize a mistake I had fallen. I was feeling very heart broken and disgusted. Now I am quite feeling better after reading your article. I have been to Phuket 3 times and this was my 4th trip. Before I never felt in love but just had fun and enjoyed my trip. I want to share my story and please advise based on experience in Thailand I don’t know how to proceed back:
    My age is 45 years live in India and girl is 28 years is from Surin and works at a bar in OTOP.
    I met this girl Rita (Her English is not good) at OTOP bar and the owner of the bar knows me very well. So she said I give you a very good girl who will take care of you on that particular night and next day. She was truly amazing girl and as a gentleman I treated with all the respect and dignity. As the time went by I started feeling in love with her. I even told her I love you a lot and want to be in a relationship with you. She said Yes and said you a very good man. I was so happy and then with my sisters in Thailand and Her, we went all together to Phuket sightseeing and had very good day. I bought her a pendant and Chain because I was feeling on the top of the moon. 3rd day It was my last day and we had a great time and she was very sad that I was going home next day. She told me next time come for long time. We hugged and little bit emotional cried and I returned back home. (Total 3 days I was with her). I even told her if she needs anything let me know.
    When I returned home, I found out that she had removed me from Facebook as a friend. So, I asked her and she said I didn’t do it. Anyway, I said OK and we started to chat on WhatsApp. Next 3 days when I was in India, we were having chats not much but in between the day and vid calls. She would often say she is busy and but I also noticed that she was online on Instagram. Then one day She told me that she is going back to Bangkok as she will be visiting her sisters and also told me she doesn’t want work in the bar anymore (Her Sister booked her tickets for her). So she requested can you book a hotel for me for 3 days so I could stay there peacefully so I booked the hotel in her name single person. After this on the day she checked in she never told me anything and when I called her In the Video call I found that she didn’t look much interested. So, one night I sent her message, her internet of phone looked switched off in the night. My message was not reaching her on WhatsApp. But in the Morning at 5AM the message would get to her. This happened every day till one day I decided to call her at 1:30 AM in the night on Instagram. She was drunk, picked up the video call and suddenly disconnected it (I think she was in video call with someone and by mistake she picked up). Then again, I called she picked up and was talking like she didn’t want to talk and looked a bit odd. So, I said OK you take care good night and bye. When she reached her room, she sent me an image saying I want to hug you now. So, I called her and comforted her. Next day in the morning she was online on Instagram, So I message her Good Morning and called her but she didn’t pick up. So, I waited but not a single message came. 6 hours later she writes “I free call you” but that call never came. Then in the evening after again 7 hours she write “at Karon with friends to have food”. I didn’t reply back. Felt very bad and disgusted, she couldn’t find just 2 minutes time to call me. She even sent me a friend request through face book but later when I saw it was deleted by her. Next day she while going to the airport she messages me “Going to the Airport. Sorry had such a good time partying with friends that I couldn’t had time to call you. Thank you for everything “I wrote back Take care have a great flight. Good bye”
    Once she reached Bangkok, I message her” I know you never liked me so I am burying this red rose in a children park that you gave me on the beach so that new flowers come for the children to enjoy. Thank you”
    She quickly called me and I picked up and said that She was sorry and introduced me to her sister briefly. She said don’t be angry please. I said its okay and take care. Keep in touch. Next day she messages me “Hi” and I call her and she was going to a mall with her sister. So, I said its okay have a great day and will talk later. She sends me this emoji “🥰”. Then after 2 hours she calls me to introduce me to her twin sister and their children. A brief Hi Hello stuff” and we said bye and hung up. After that she sends photograph with her cousin brother and her with sister. Everything looks fine till now. In the night she calls again but I didn’t pickup (Somehow my sixth sense told me not to pick up). I wrote I am busy with someone and in office party. Then She writes “How do I go to Surin” and “Tomorrow I am going to Surin” I wrote I am “Okay”
    In the Morning, I wished her” Good Morning” and she replied back the same. But she then Wrote “How are you with a smile emoji” and when I was going to reply she deleted it immediately. I wrote to her “Have a safe trip back to Surin” on which she replied with a thumbs up. This is the story till now. She is online on Facebook now.

    • Sorry to hear about your experience, Vishal. But my opinion is that you’re being played by this girl. No matter how much it hurts, I think it’s best to end your relationship with her now, otherwise you will only end up suffering more later on. This is one of the reasons why you generally want to stay away from bar girls in the first place.

      But don’t worry – as you probably know, the pain will eventually go away and you will be able to find a good, genuine Thai girl. Just keep in mind all the red flags from this experience, learn from them and don’t let this happen again.


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